From when we were babies to hitherto social pressures have forced us into the role of being a man.
We were discouraged to act feminine. It’s part of being socialized.
This was dinned into us by our mother and father; by books we read and TV shows we watched; and by our teachers in school.
Perhaps an example would shed light on this.
Take a visit to a local toy store.
You’ll notice that most toys aren’t for boys and girls.
In the boys section you’ll find G.I. Joes, Transformers, and Thomas the Train.
In the girl’s section you’ll find Barbie dolls and Dora the Explorer.
These toys aren’t just “toys.” They’re teaching aids for training kids to become a man or a woman.
If a boy is caught brushing a Brat doll’s hair his friends will most likely make fun of him and call him a girl.
If his mother or father catch him doing this, they’ll immediately take the doll away from him and worry that he isn’t being socialized as a male.
This causes boys and men alike to stay clear of acting like a girl.
There’s nothing wrong with this except that some of the best seducers have developed their feminine side. These men are called “Dandies.”
They bounce back-and-forth between acting like a woman and a man.
In fact, their seductive power lies in that they cannot be categorized as masculine or feminine.
When a person cannot be categorized, they entrance others. We are attracted to those who entrance us.
The famous psychiatrist Dr. Freud famously said that people are bisexual. According to him, all of us are attracted to both males and females.
But but being stigmatized prevents most of us from acting on these urges.
Women are attracted to the Dandy because he is a woman inside a man’s body.
Dandies are notoriously insolent: they have very little need to please people – especially women. This is another facet of their allure.
Here’s a simple guide to turning yourself into a Dandy: learn to pay attention to the smallest details, develop a disdain for pleasing others, and nurture your feminine side.
I want to leave you with a quote from Pablo Picasso: “I am a woman. Every artist is a woman and should have a taste for other women. Artists who are homosexual cannot be true artists because they like men, and since they themselves are women they are reverting to normality.”
This will work whether you make your money from marketing, advertising, the finance world, selling autos, or something else.
Whether you’re into blogs, gardening, sports, spirituality, religion, traveling the world, being a family man, or health and fitness, this advice will help you.
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