Do you know what charm is?
Don’t worry if you’re clueless. Few do.
Most men think bragging ad nauseam about their accomplishments, about all the interesting places they’ve been, and about girls they’ve conquered is charming.
It’s not.
Most women yap on and on about their problems. Save it for therapy. No one wants to hear it. Even worse, it will kill any smidgen of charm you have.
What does it mean to be a charmer?
Charmers are consummate manipulators and often times sociopaths.
However, most people are so worried about themselves that they cannot discern when the charmer is manipulating them.
There’s something else that blinds us from knowing when the charmer is taking advantage of us.
There’s a misconception in our culture that manipulators and sociopaths lack the ability to empathize.
On the contrary, manipulators and sociopaths are masters at empathizing.
The word “empathy” literally means to see where the other person is coming from, to put yourself in the other person’s shoes.
Although many charmers are devoid of any sympathy, they are great at demonstrating empathy. This is what makes them so deadly.
While most people are only concerned with themselves, the charmer makes the other person feel that he understands them.
He also recedes into the background and allows others to shine.
By doing this he’s playing on people’s biggest weaknesses: their ego, vanity, and self-esteem.
As soon as they drop their defenses and become dependent on him, he goes in for the kill and manipulates them.
I am not suggesting you take advantage of people or mutate into a sick and twisted Sith lord.
However, there are many lessons to glean from studying the charmer. If you put your oversize ego aside and allow women to shine, they’ll become your loyal slaves. They’ll depend on you for validation
In no time, they’ll be buying you dinner and driving you around.
Here’s your homework:
Take a few moment to imagine a person you enjoy being around.
I’m willing to bet these are people who make you feel good about yourself. They allow you to be the center of attention and laugh at your jokes.
That’s how you want to make women feel.
You might be wondering: why? Because when we like being around someone, we will do anything for him.
This will work whether you make your money from marketing, advertising, the finance world, selling autos, or something else.
Whether you’re into blogs, gardening, sports, spirituality, religion, traveling the world, being a family man, or health and fitness, this advice will help you.
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